Individuals suffering from alcohol dependence frequently cycle through the same litany of questions. Why do I keep doing this? Why can’t I stop? Why can’t I just drink like other people? They feel certain that if they can understand the problem in the right way, the solution will present itself. And so, the cycle continues. Sometimes for years.
Tremendous personal energy is allocated to developing a theory that explains the behavior. Some of these theories may be valuable, some of them might even be close to the truth. But the real truth is that the reason why is not the problem. The problem is the drinking. And the solution is stopping.