Five things you can do to help your marriage now. Number five. Change course.

If you ware unhappy with the way things are right now do something different. Change. Don’t make the mistake of expecting different results from the same actions. Don’t make the mistake of believing that you can force someone else to change. Start with yourself.

Think very carefully about how you are going to change. Generally, good things come from changes that result in greater openness, more honesty, and less judgement. These types of changes are real. They are life changing changes. But where to start?

You can start by asking yourself honest questions. Follow up with clear statements of your intent.

• How do I become more open with my spouse? I want to become more open with my spouse.
• How do I become more honest with my spouse? I want to become more honest with my spouse.
• How do I do both of these things without judging my spouse? I want to become more open and honest without judgement.

Let these questions and statements live in your heart for a period of time. They will lead you in the right direction.