If you ware unhappy with the way things are right now do something different. Change. Don’t make the mistake of expecting different results from the same actions. Don’t make the mistake of believing that you can force someone else to change. Start with yourself.
Think very carefully about how you are going to change. Generally, good things come from changes that result in greater openness, more honesty, and less judgement. These types of changes are real. They are life changing changes. But where to start?
You can start by asking yourself honest questions. Follow up with clear statements of your intent.
- How do I become more open with my spouse? I want to become more open with my spouse.
- How do I become more honest with my spouse? I want to become more honest with my spouse.
- How do I do both of these things without judging my spouse? I want to become more open and honest without judgement.
Let these questions and statements live in your heart for a period of time. They will lead you in the right direction.
Pinnacle Counseling is proudly going green in support of National Mental Illness Awareness Week from Monday, October 7th – Friday, October 11th. Although there are many things you can do to show your support for National Mental Illness Awareness Week, the number one thing every single person can do is to help spread awareness to stop the stigma of mental illness. Starting the conversation is the first step to reaching out and supporting your loved ones as they seek help in a struggle with any sort of mental illness or mental health issue can be remarkably beneficial. At Pinnacle Counseling, we are ready to help you on your journey to becoming more mentally healthy. Check back throughout the week for more posts to help spread the word about the importance of mental health awareness.
A therapist is someone trained to help you understand yourself — your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors — in a way that is beneficial to you. A good one can help you find meaningful answers to life’s persistent questions. If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of behaviors, a good therapist can help you become unstuck. But how do you find a good therapist? Here’s a brief how to:
1. Therapists are mental health professionals who listen and talk. You can discover if a potential therapist is gifted in listening and talking from the comfort of your own home. Pick up the phone give their office a call.
2. Can you talk to a therapist over the phone? If the answer is no, try another number. Your personal connection to your therapist is important. This personal connection begins with that first phone call. Trust your instincts.
3. Don’t be afraid to call a bunch of different offices. This is an important decision.
4. Remember that positive therapeutic outcomes are based on genuine human interaction. Listening. Talking. Caring. Pick up the phone as see where your a conversation with a potential therapist takes you.
Here is a link to the Psychology Today listing of local therapists. It’s a good place to start: Rogers, Arkansas — Therapists.
Gratitude has been proven by research to significantly decrease anxiety and depression. Individuals who spend time thinking about the positive elements of their lives report feeling happier and more motivated. So, as the Thanksgiving season approaches, what can you be thankful for? Be sure to look around at not only the significant relationships and events in your life, but also the little details that actually do make a difference, even if they may seem insignificant. We all have things to be grateful for, even if it’s just the gift of waking up every day and experiencing life. Sometimes, we just have to shift our focus in order to see it.
Writing a list or keeping a journal of daily events that cause you to be grateful is a helpful exercise. Additionally, be sure to tell your friends, family, coworkers and others what you appreciate about them. Don’t forget, you can be grateful for yourself as well! Express gratitude towards yourself for who you are and things that you have accomplished. Each of these exercises will more than likely serve to lighten your mood and increase your hope about the future.
Is your plan is place? An earlier post gave a few what not to’s for your resolutions this year (NY Resolutions: A Counselor’s Perspective). Here are a couple of suggestions for resolutions that work for you. Don’t worry if you haven’t developed a well-defined resolution or set of resolutions. Now is the perfect time.
Be specific. Broad generalizations are not your friends. Set specific, measurable goals with a specific verifiable, objectives along the way. If today is day one of your new program, you should do something today toward your goal and feel good about it.
Give yourself two months. What you are trying to do is replace a disorganized, unfocused, or unhealthy habit with the habit of your choice. Research indicates that you need to practice a new behavior about 60 times before it becomes a habit. If you are talking about an everyday discipline, that means you’ll need about two months to turn a new behavior (cleaning the kitchen every night before bed, walking every morning, not smoking on the way to work, not placing clothing on the floor of your closet) into an established habit.
Reward yourself along the way. Feel good starting day one. Recognize that the change you are seeking is already underway. Imagine how good you’ll feel at day 60. Think about it. How you get there starts on day one and continues for every day thereafter. Think about spreading that good feeling of accomplishment out, from day one to day sixty and every day in between.
Pinnacle Counseling would like to formally welcome the newest additions to our staff, Torie Sullivan, a Mental Health and Relationship Counselor, and Kalli Hendren, Administrative Assistant.
We are thrilled to have them join our team! They are featured on the main page of our website (http://pinnaclecounselingnwa.com/pinnacle-counseling) and more about them is located under the “Our Counselors” tab. We look forward to sharing the talents of these incredible women with our clients.