Dealing with Change

Changes occur all day long.  An appointment gets cancelled, you encounter a detour on the way home, you were anticipating roast beef for dinner and you got chicken.  It’s what life is and while you might get a bit frustrated, you learn to roll with it.  But what about the big changes?  Job transfers, marriage, divorce, children, medical changes and the death of someone you love.  How do you learn to adapt with the changes that will affect the rest of your life?

Whether you’re leaving the community that you’ve built strong relations with or having to bury a loved one, you will feel anger because it wasn’t your choice for this to happen to you.  Healthy coping skills result in better emotional stability.  Poor coping skills result in anger and resentment.

First, it is helpful to recognize that you are in the midst of change and that change is part of you.  Instead of thinking about all the negative issues, try making a list of all the positive benefits of this change.  Visualize all the possibilities and write them down.  Make up a “to do” list if there are things you need to accomplish before the change happens.  Call a friend and discuss your fears and ask for their advice.  If you feel that you can’t get past your fear, anger and resentment you may need to talk to a professional.  In talking with a therapist you will get an unbiased opinion and they will be able to give you some insight and the coping tools so that you can move on and embrace your changes.

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” ~ Jim Rohn

Fights at Home?

Home should be a place of peace and refuge in a busy, sometimes hectic, world. If you are looking for harmony at home and not finding it, here are a couple of things to think about:

  • Sometimes stress comes to you. Sometimes it comes from you. Can you locate the source of stress in your home?
  • How are the kids doing? Are they happy, healthy, enjoying their experiences at school and at home?
  • What is the status of the marriage? How is communication? Taking time for the important things?
  • Who sets the emotional tone at home? Mom, dad, the kids?
  • Finances and laundry are two prominent sources of stress in a relationship. How are the finances and who is doing the laundry?

 

 

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I there such a thing as a “Nervous Breakdown”?

Despite advances in mental health, the term “Nervous Breakdown” is still a term commonly used in our culture. In the past, the term was used frequently and covered a variety of mental disorders. While the term is a metaphor and is not a clinical or medical term, or indicates a specific mental illness, the description of symptoms can indicate an underlying mental disorder such as depression or anxiety. A nervous breakdown could occur after a prolonged period of feeling emotionally or physically overwhelmed, or exhausted with the demands of life or an external stressor, and to the point a person is unable to function in day-to-day life or feeling as if they are not able to cope with life at all. In the past, treatment for nervous breakdowns usually involved hospitalization, heavy medication, and even lobotomy. Thinking of a person as weak or unable to “fix” their own problems perpetuates the negative stigma of mental illness. Life today can be complex and stressful. Many people do not know effective coping strategies and are still hesitant to seek professional help. If you think you may be having a nervous “breakdown” or had one in the past, consult with us at Pinnacle Counseling.

Five things you can do to help your marriage now. Number five. Change course.

If you ware unhappy with the way things are right now do something different. Change. Don’t make the mistake of expecting different results from the same actions. Don’t make the mistake of believing that you can force someone else to change. Start with yourself.

Think very carefully about how you are going to change. Generally, good things come from changes that result in greater openness, more honesty, and less judgement. These types of changes are real. They are life changing changes. But where to start?

You can start by asking yourself honest questions. Follow up with clear statements of your intent.

  • How do I become more open with my spouse? I want to become more open with my spouse.
  • How do I become more honest with my spouse? I want to become more honest with my spouse.
  • How do I do both of these things without judging my spouse? I want to become more open and honest without judgement.

Let these questions and statements live in your heart for a period of time. They will lead you in the right direction.

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Going green to support National Mental Illness Awareness Week

Pinnacle Counseling is proudly going green in support of National Mental Illness Awareness Week from Monday, October 7th – Friday, October 11th. Although there are many things you can do to show your support for National Mental Illness Awareness Week, the number one thing every single person can do is to help spread awareness to stop the stigma of mental illness. Starting the conversation is the first step to reaching out and supporting your loved ones as they seek help in a struggle with any sort of mental illness or mental health issue can be remarkably beneficial. At Pinnacle Counseling, we are ready to help you on your journey to becoming more mentally healthy. Check back throughout the week for more posts to help spread the word about the importance of mental health awareness.

 

Erika McCaghren

 

Find a Therapist: Northwest Arkansas

A therapist is someone trained to help you understand yourself — your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors — in a way that is beneficial to you. A good one can help you find meaningful answers to life’s persistent questions. If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of behaviors, a good therapist can help you become unstuck. But how do you find a good therapist? Here’s a brief how to:

1. Therapists are mental health professionals who listen and talk. You can discover if a potential therapist is gifted in listening and talking from the comfort of your own home. Pick up the phone give their office a call.

2. Can you talk to a therapist over the phone? If the answer is no, try another number. Your personal connection to your therapist is important. This personal connection begins with that first phone call. Trust your instincts.

3. Don’t be afraid to call a bunch of different offices. This is an important decision.

4. Remember that positive therapeutic outcomes are based on genuine human interaction. Listening. Talking. Caring. Pick up the phone as see where your a conversation with a potential therapist takes you.

Here is a link to the Psychology Today listing of local therapists. It’s a good place to start: Rogers, Arkansas — Therapists.

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