When Relationships Hurt

Relationships are very important to our lives and for the most part are good for us. But what do we do when a relationship is no longer good for us? How do we recognize when a relationship has turned toxic?

Unhealthy, negative relationships don’t just happen with a spouse or romantic partner. You can have a toxic relationship with parents, siblings, co-workers or friends. Any relationship, between 2 or more people, that has an unhealthy dynamic is defined as a toxic relationship. A toxic relationship leaves you feeling worse about yourself and generally unhappy. A healthy relationship leaves you feeling good about yourself and brings positive outcomes to your life.

Signs that you are in a toxic relationship can include any of the following:

  • Feeling as though you are never good enough.
  • Feeling like you can never do anything right.
  • Always feeling under attack.
  • Always needing the other person’s approval.
  • Always needing to be careful of what you say or how you say it.
  • Not freely being yourself.
  • Being put down by the other person.
  • Always being blamed for the problems, the other person takes no responsibility.
  • You are left with a constant feeling of negativity.
  • Isolated from other relationships.

Toxic relationships take a high toll on mental health.

  • Constant state of stress.
  • Depression.
  • Negative thoughts.
  • Lower self-esteem.
  • Anxiety.
  • Lack of sleep.
  • Lack of self-care.
  • Isolation.

What to do when you recognize you are in a toxic relationship:

  • Set boundaries on what you will accept or not accept from the other person.
  • Stop contact with the other person, if necessary, if they won’t respect boundaries.
  • Start practicing self-care: eating right, exercising, etc.
  • Seek help from a professional if you need support in breaking unhealthy patterns.

Pinnacle Counseling has therapists that can help you find ways of working through your interpersonal relationships, individually or as a couple. If you would like to talk to a counselor that can help you cope and give you some guidelines on how to set boundaries, please call 479-268-4142.  In this time of social distancing Pinnacle Counseling is offering both TeleHealth and in-office services, following all CDC safety guidelines to protect everyone.


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